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Posted by John Faisandier on Jan 18, 2018 11:41:22 AM

It's very easy to respond to aggression with aggression... but what if we reacted differently?

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Topics: Angry, APE, Emotion, Physical Reactions, Sceptical, Upset People

Russell Crow kicked out of pub

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 21, 2014 11:53:59 AM

A little snippet in the paper yesterday said Russell Crow had been excluded from a pub somewhere in England because he caused too much trouble. Russell caused difficulties once before when he threw a phone at the concierge in a New York hotel. At the time he said this is how we settle things where I come from (NZ). He has to have been misquoted, surely!

What can you do when people like Russell Crow nut-off and get upset. Sometimes there's not a lot you can do but hold your own dignity. It is worth acknowledging that you see they are upset. It can be helpful to apologise that they have been put out, or the service hasn't met their expectation. This is not accepting blame for what has happened. It is letting them know they are not alone with their feelings and distress.

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Topics: Angry, Difficult customers, I'm OK You're OK, Physical Reactions, Russell Crow

JetStar Saga Continues

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 21, 2014 11:12:54 AM

The saga with JetStar, the new budget airline operating in New Zealand continues. Over the weekend a number of passengers were turned away from the check-in counter because they arrived less the 30 minutes before take-off. Some who were shut out said they arrived earlier but the queues were too slow.
JetStar want to set their rules very clearly. They want people to know that this 30 minute cut-off time is absolute. This is their right and it’s probably a good way to run a budget airline.

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Topics: Angry, customer service, Difficult customers, Jetstar, Upset People, Upset Staff

MP told off for being angry

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 21, 2014 10:07:03 AM

What would Alan Duff say about this.

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Topics: Aggressive, Alan Duff, Angry, John Carter, John Key, Perspective, Upset People

Our legal right to be angry

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 20, 2014 12:48:12 PM

Alan Duff reappeared in court in Taupo last week and was acquitted of charges against him. He allegedly shouted in the face of a policewoman who stopped him for speeding and then tried to handcuff him. Duff told 3News he was angry with the policewoman. “I was angry but my lawyer did point out that a senior judge said that the right to speak inoffensively is no right at all. In other words, we are allowed to show emotion and everything else”

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Topics: Aggressive, Alan Duff, Angry, Blog, Law, Upset People

Alan Duff does a rant

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 20, 2014 12:29:45 PM

Alan Duff does a “rant”. He claims to the judge in the Taupo court that this is not aggressive. It is just a rant. The policewoman involved in issuing him the speeding ticket certainly thought he was aggressive.

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Topics: Aggressive, Alan Duff, Angry, Law, Rant, Uncategorized, Upset People

Managing Emotions

Learn to deal with difficult customers, colleagues, family and friends

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