Thriving Under Fire Blog

Post-earthquake training

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 24, 2014 11:28:28 AM

I have just returned from Christchurch where I presented a free seminar for businesses and organisations on dealing with angry people in post earthquake Christchurch.
Participants from many sectors recognised the same stresses in their staff and customers.

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Topics: customer service, Emotion, Upset People, Difficult customers, Distress, Feedback, Natural Disaster, Reactions, Stress, Thriving Under Fire

Survivors need to talk — we need to listen

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 24, 2014 11:12:55 AM

My nephew Scott Garvie, a Wellington plumber (see Scotty’s Potties), volunteered to work for a week in earthquake-stricken Christchurch. He discovered that people needed to talk even more than they needed their plumbing fixed — and listening became harder than fixing their toilets! My own experience of talking on the phone with friends from Christchurch confirms this. People who have gone through severe shocks, like the earthquake, desperately want to talk about their experiences.
This makes being a good listener so important.

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Topics: Emotion, Upset People, Distress, Grief, Listening, Natural Disaster, Reactions

Listen to your mates!

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 21, 2014 12:04:10 PM

The court case is continuing against Eric Smail, of Christchurch who murdered the tetraplegic friend he had been caring for over a number of years. Their relationship had become strained and Eric wasn’t coping.
A short time before the murder he was in the pub with some friends and had tried to tell them he was having difficulties with his friend. They just laughed it off and didn’t hear his distress. This made him feel worse and he murdered his friend that night.

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Topics: Friends, High School Shootings, Physical Reactions, Difficult Conversations, Distress, Extremes, Listening, Violence

Managing Emotions

Learn to deal with difficult customers, colleagues, family and friends

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