Thriving Under Fire Blog

Weak apologies are poor customer service

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 23, 2014 8:31:52 PM

A story in the Dominion Post this morning (February 4, 2013) sparked my interest. It is fifty years since a young man, high on alcohol and tranquilizers shot two policemen in cold blood.
He served over 11 years in jail and another 10 years on probation and has since lived a productive life, it would appear. He is now 77 year old with children and grandchildren. I have no quibble about his punishment and am delighted that he has done well with his life.

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Topics: customer service, Crucial Conversations, Emotion, Conflict Resolution, Difficult Conversations, Grief, Relationships, Thriving Under Fire

Survivors need to talk — we need to listen

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 23, 2014 6:12:55 PM

My nephew Scott Garvie, a Wellington plumber (see Scotty’s Potties), volunteered to work for a week in earthquake-stricken Christchurch. He discovered that people needed to talk even more than they needed their plumbing fixed — and listening became harder than fixing their toilets! My own experience of talking on the phone with friends from Christchurch confirms this. People who have gone through severe shocks, like the earthquake, desperately want to talk about their experiences.
This makes being a good listener so important.

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Topics: Emotion, Upset People, Distress, Grief, Listening, Natural Disaster, Reactions

Saying how they feel

Posted by John Faisandier on Mar 23, 2014 6:08:37 PM

When I rang my friend in Christchurch the other night, his 13 year old son answered the phone. “You must have got quite a shake up by the earthquake” I said. “Nah, not really, it was nothing”, he shot back offhandedly. I was taken aback but didn't pursue the conversation at the time.
Later his father told me that he had stopped his son making inappropriate jokes about the earthquake. At that point I saw clearly how this was the boy’s way of dealing with the scary shake.

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Topics: Emotion, Emotions, Grief, Listening, Natural Disaster, Reactions, Stress

Managing Emotions

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